Last night I sat and watched the Grammy’s with my daughter. This was probably the first time I have ever watched a full award show. I noticed two themes throughout the show that I absolutely loved as well as three things the artists had in common as they shared their stories. I wanted to share them with you because they are important to our success as a business owner and momma-entrepreneur.
1. Diversity and inclusion
2. Women Supporting Women
Diversity & Inclusion
One thing that 2020 taught us is that we all need to recognize our own prejudices and start to reconcile them. I thought I had overcome the prejudices that I grew up with. I have a daughter who is Navajo and Hispanic. I have friends of all races. I love people of all races. However, I never deeply understood the ancestral trauma that people of other races face until this year. I never understood how deeply they can fear having a black child in our world. This past year brought me many opportunities to learn and grow. I was also able to begin to heal ancestral trauma. Ancestral trauma is trauma that carries over from our ancestors. Such as what we (the white man) did to the Africans we stole from their homeland and what we did to the Native Americans who were here before us. Recognizing the pain that we caused, allowing myself to feel that, asking for forgiveness for what my ancestors did, and releasing my old programming, thoughts, and beliefs has allowed me to become a free woman.
Are you harboring any racism or ancestral trauma that you need to release? RMM is the method I used to process and release these. If you would like to know more about this, send me a message.
Women Supporting Women
My heart burst last night as I saw Beyonce and Megan praise each other and Taylor giddy with excitement Billie when won her award. When I grew up, girls were mean to each other. This and many other things led to me being a judgmental asshole. In my personal growth journey, I realized that my judgements of other people had root in my judgements about myself. I judged women who would speak their mind because I did not know how to speak my mind, and I hated myself for that. I judged so much. Healing myself from all my judgements about myself and accepting myself just as I am, has led to huge transformations in my life. It has also helped me to be more accepting of others. To celebrate others and to be happy for them when they do well.
As women, we face so many issues in our world with gender discrimination that we need to build each other up. Be supportive of one another. As I heal myself, I now see this pattern more evident in our society and I love that we are moving towards this.
Do you support other women? Or do you tear them down? What judgements may you be having about others that are really judgements about yourself? How can you begin to heal these? (Again, I used RMM for this!)
Things all the artists had in common
1. They knew they wanted to be an artist at an early age
2. They pushed past the difficult beginning moments to make it to stardom
3. They had a team supporting them.
What lessons can we learn from this?
Our Dreams Are Important
Those dreams we had when we were young are probably still in us and are most likely a deep-seated desire that we still have. When I was young, I wanted to help people. I thought the best way to do this was to be a social worker and help people who were struggling. I enjoyed this job at first, but quickly realized that the same people were returning with the same problems month after month. This led to me wanting to be a stay-at-home mom when I had my second baby. I have worked on refining this desire to help people over the last 5 years since returning to the workforce. It is now refined to helping momma entrepreneurs scale their businesses to their first six figure year, because I have a passion for helping mommas get out of the exhaustion cycle and realize they have a lot to offer the world. When more mommas fulfill their mission, the world will be a better place!
Ask yourself these questions: What did you want to do when you were younger? How can that be incorporated with what you are doing now?
We Must Endure the Beginning
There are no overnight successes. Behind every overnight success, you will find 5-10 years of behind the scenes work of product development, learning their trade, or playing at half-full bars. The fact that you are struggling does not mean that you will fail. The only way you will fail is if you quit.
Struggling does not mean that you will fail!
Everyone has a story of how they got to where they are. When we can recognize that and learn to love our story, then the journey of getting there does not seem so long. We can learn to love our story by managing our thoughts. The easiest way to manage your thoughts is to keep your focus on your future self and future results. Why are you doing what you are doing? What are you creating? How is that going to change your life? When you know why then those little hiccups along the way will not derail you from your path to success.
Once you know where you are going, you can then create the thoughts you need to have to manifest that result. What would that future you be saying? Thinking? Doing? What would she think about your life? Your business? Your relationships? All of these are the thoughts you want to start putting your attention on each time you become discouraged.
We Must Have a Support System
So many mommas start their business as a solo-preneur. I did this myself. We try to be every position in our business: marketing, website builder, content creator, bookkeeper, and business owner. While we do this out of necessity in the beginning, too often it stays that way for far too long. As we start to make money, it is absolutely essential that we begin to hire our balance. Hire out the positions that take you away from your zone of genius. Your time, energy, and attention are best spent on the things you are best at. That is what will make you more money and help you scale to your first six figure year and then six figure months.
We also need experts in other fields to show us what we do not know. A musician has an agent, a publicist, a music publisher, a lawyer, and a music manager just to name a few. These people protect you, protect your business, and allow you to grow beyond your own expertise. I have had five different coaches in my year in business. I am now looking at hiring a lawyer, a bookkeeper, and a copy writer in the next few months.
What position do you need to add in your business to help you scale to the next level?
I am so happy that I sat down with my daughter to watch the Grammy’s. Who knew it would teach me so many life lessons in such a short amount of time!